Advice: Wife problem

[7s1amma7]

Its not her fault he didn't know her plans for a new car. Its his fault for not being understanding. Where have y'all been?

[h13man]

From all the posts on this subject and I can give you a condensed summary: If you need to go public with your personal life, you don't need another bike. Seriously give this some thought.

[rmw]

If 34 years being married to the same woman counts as enough experience to offer advice, then put the new bike plan on the shelf and sit down with your wife and work out a realistic 5 year financial plan. This economy is not going to get better anytime soon and depending on what happens in November it could get a whole lot worse.

The other part of this is you need to decide what your priorities are and assuming you actually love your wife, then you seriously need to get your head wrapped around that. People say that marriage is a 50-50 proposition. That's nonsense; it's a 110/110 percent commitment by both parties. In the end you have to decide what kind of husband and man you want to be.

[7s1amma7]

I wonder how much differently this discussion would have gone onthe sport bike board.

[kacealraid]

Originally Posted by 7s1amma7

I wonder how much differently this discussion would have gone onthe sport bike board.

Valid question! But that is to assume the type of bike you ride would probably relate to the kind of personality you have... Which, I think it does, honestly. Some people say "Don't judge a book by it's cover." I do. I do it every day. I just don't act prejudice against a book cover I don't like until I read a few passages from it.

[TxShadow49]

Keep her car. Keep your bike unless you can find one that is a wash on trade. Take the money you would have spent on new bike and/or car and bank it, then invest it. In a few years you will have some savings and you will be able to pay cash for a better lifestyle. Take it from a close to 50 year old guy that spent way too many years spending what I could afford. I am having to bank a lot now when I should be able to spend, because I spent when I should have been banking years ago.

[Ex Parte]

Originally Posted by El Fenix

Send her to Saudi Arabia, then she may appreciate the freedoms in the US. I mean women can just now drive over there legally. Just saying.....

Yep, that's how you do it, just punish her

[still.southern]

Originally Posted by TxShadow49

Keep her car. Keep your bike unless you can find one that is a wash on trade. Take the money you would have spent on new bike and/or car and bank it, then invest it. In a few years you will have some savings and you will be able to pay cash for a better lifestyle. Take it from a close to 50 year old guy that spent way too many years spending what I could afford. I am having to bank a lot now when I should be able to spend, because I spent when I should have been banking years ago.

+1 Great advice!

Check out Dave Ramsey if you want to see some charts of how this works. I've been blessed by starting young and I have no debts...I even own my house outright, my house and vehicles may not be as nice as the next guys, but I'm free! Believe me it makes life a lot more fun!

[MikeB]

Get a divorce.

From Facebook.

[schickdog]

Ride what you have til the wheels fall off. Customize it. Make it unique and yours. far more fulfilling than buying the same thing everyone else has. pocket the money you would spend on the new note. pay your house off early. pay off debt. be financially smart. penny saved, penny earned.

and lastly and most importantly, talk to your wife before you talk to FB.

if you really have to have the new bike, spin it in a way that makes her think it was her idea to get you a new ride. lots of "honey, i don't need anything but you. it works, it gets me there, the gearbox clunks a lot, the tire has a slow leak, the johnson wire is frayed, the gyro's need to be balanced, maybe new bearings in the camber brackets", etc.