Post title was a bit of a joke, I will be getting a bike regardless.
As I said in my Post 2 of 2, I got into an accident with my last bike and got rid of it afterwards. Wife is not happy that I am shopping for another. Post title was a joke in that I am not actually seeking permission to get it, I will be getting it regardless, but an angry wife is not a lot of fun to have around.
Let her know how much you enjoy it, and how careful you are as a driver. Show her some stats on car accidents, I'm guessing the numbers are higher. My wife isn't thrilled that I ride, but she knows that I have been doing it since before we met and she knows how much I enjoy it. I know she worries, so I don't tell her about the close calls, and there are many.
The best thing you can do is come home safe each time and tell her how much you enjoyed it and how much it relaxes you. Then plan to take her out for "allowing" you to get another bike. Good luck.......your gonna need it.
Why am I reminded of the phrase "Better to ask forgiveness than permission"? :wink2:
You need to let her know how much riding means to you. That's #1! Once she knows how 'important' it is to you, she will probably 'back off'. However, you might also see if she will go for a ride WITH you, once you get it. She may come to enjoy it almost as much as you do. I know that happened with MY wife! However, mine decided she'd rather be 'in control' of a bike of her own, so 'be careful what you wish for'! She may end up wanting HER own bike, too! :grin2:
Take out a large life insurance policy on yourself, and tell her your bike will be like her playing the lottery! j/k
I've always been told it is better to ask for forgiveness than permission. I think your mistake was letting her know too soon that you were shopping for a bike. When I bought mine, I told her I was going out to look at a bike, but came back with it on the trailer. She asked what happened to looking at it, and I told her I looked at it and then bought it. :grin2:
My wife just recently accepted that I got a bike. It set her mind more at ease to know that I wear protective gear, like full face helmet and armored jacket & pants. It also didn't hurt that she got a new car.
Wow this is no joke guys, I had permission to get my bike, if I didn't have it I would not have bought it, forgiveness is earned so for me I had to do begging before buying the bike.
I agree that having a bike is a great hobbie and a big stress relief and if you are an experienced rider than you should have no concerns.
Just afford Your Good Lady the same consideration as you-yourself would prefer to enjoy.
...I can't remember my Wife ever telling me no when it came to something I wanted.. I wouldn't bring up an expenditure if I couldn't afford it; she always comes first, no-matter what (and she knows it), and on the odd occasion where she threw out a concern, it was worth listening to and conversing on, a-little..
She's my best friend.. I treat her like it.
I nearly got wiped out when I was a kid, doing stupid things, way past my skill-set, on a bike. Came >< that close to the all encompassing thing.
My Wife has always known I was a complete no-hoper-bike-nut.. When I finally got back on a bike, I went down to the valley and bought one. Since I had caged-it down the hill, I just had them deliver it to my house.. Day came, they delivered the bike! Started it, ran inside all excited, put my gear on, gave the Wife a quick smooch and ran outside. Forgot something.. Went back inside the house, my wife was crying..
If they care about us at all, They worry about us..
They know how dangerous this thing we enjoy, can be..
Afford her a little consideration and understanding, talk to her about these things.. The rest is just give and take.
That wouldn't have worked for me, as I told my wife it was a choice between me getting a bike, sports car or girlfriend. So, I chose the cheaper of the three choices.