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post #1 of 27 (permalink) Old 10-17-2013, 09:58 AM Thread Starter
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Continue riding after a near miss?

I'm a 30 year rider. My current bike is a 2005 Honda Shadow VLX600 and I ride it 32 miles per day round trip (mostly side streets) to work all year around (except rainy, snowy, or below 30 degrees). I look forward to my rides and find them relaxing and fun. I keep a chart to see all the money I save per year on gas and put that money towards guitar stuff. I like riding.

In the past few years, I've grown more and more cautious as I've had numerous situations where cars have come into my lane, etc. I've read the threads out here on best parts of a lane to stay in etc, and try to follow them.

This morning, on the way to work, I was in one of my safest parts of my commute driving through a school zone at 25 mph. It rained last night and I was mostly watching the road in front of me trying to keep on the dryer portions. I looked up from the road and saw a big black SUV coming right for me from the opposite lane.

There was no time to react or even think, just clench and brace. My mind was racing during that time and I remember thinking "oh ****, he's purposely coming right for me. Why would they do that? He wants to kill me, why??" Afterwards I figured he must have been a distracted driver and realized what he was doing as he was passing me and corrected, because the trajectory he was on was a direct hit. I was in the middle of my lane and he was all the way to the middle of my lane as he passed on my left. I don't know how a mirror or something else didn't get clipped as I was only inches away.

He passed, I yelled and drove on to work staying in the far right side of my lane. I'm now at work. I am questioning whether I really want to keep doing this. A few weeks ago, something similar happened but not nearly as close. How long can my luck hold out? Is it worth my life? I'm sure I'm not the only one that has had near misses like this. What do you do to mentally get back on the bike and keep riding after these? If I'm questioning it that much, should I really even try?
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hey, macjohn! this will seem utterly simplistic and it comes from a new rider, so take it fwiw. don't give up the joy of riding.

think about commuting to/from work in your car, at least for a while. ride for fun when you get home or on weekends. best regards, eljay
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That type of thing usually just makes me mad. It happens to all of us. Just take a deep breath and move on. Ride defensively and aware...

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Only you can answer those questions, for what is right for you.

For me...I've been riding for more than 45 years, and if I die while riding a motorcycle I'll consider it a gift. Much better to die while doing what I love than to die in bed.

Life is dangerous, and nobody gets out alive. I embrace the reaper. He'll still take me but at least I won't be surprised when he shows up.

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You take your chances waking up in the morning. Comes down to if you enjoy riding enough to deal with this, this stuff has, is, and will continue to happen to anyone in a vehicle. It's just there's less walls than a car I've had several near misses, you just have to deal with them.

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Similar happened to me last night. I was riding up a residential street with a stoplight. There was a red F350 with a topper making a right-turn onto my street from the cross street. I had the green light, and it was solid green for 20 seconds and several cars before I got to the intersection. I was the last vehicle in a line of cars proceeding through the intersection.

The driver of the F350 stopped, waited for the cars to pass, looked right at me....and pulled out anyway. WTH????

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Originally Posted by gat803 View Post
Much better to die while doing what I love than to die in bed.
Depends what you are doing while in bed

OP, There have been a few times where i put the bike away for a few weeks while i regrouped myself after a close call. Each time it doesn't take long for me to want to get back out there. The rule i ride by is, "if i don't feel it, i don't ride." A healthy dose of fear can be your friend, however, too much fear is never a good thing in anything you do and usually leads to more trouble.

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I dunno what to tell anyone on this subject....
IF you enjoy riding as much bas I do, you`ll not let this near miss stop you from the joy...

Trust God,

I hear that ~ when an old guy passes on ~ his last wish is to be shot - in bed with a young woman - by a jealous husband???
I dunno!

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Yep, only you can make the call to keep riding or not.But this is what you said

"I looked up from the road and saw a big black SUVcoming right for me from the opposite lane. "

You probably should have been watching the traffic already if you driving down the road.

Good luck

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I'd file it away as a lesson learned in situational awareness, and keep riding. Something's eventually going to kill you, why not a quick exit doing what you love?
I have close calls on the bike, but with a couple decades of firefighting, close calls are frequent and you get some perspective. It's skills over whatever dangerous environment you're in. Better to die with your boots on than in a hospital bed tied to machines in my books.

Be like a lion, who, rather than chasing after the stick, turns to face the thrower. You only throw a stick at a lion once. ~ Milarepa
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